* Take a deep breath, you've come to the right place. There is help and there is hope.
* Write out a brief history of the problem and what you've done so far - this helps focus your thoughts and calm the internal chatter.
* Take a hard look at where you need help: Do you need a new perspective? How about good factual information? Do you need professional help getting unstuck?
* Get away from the situation. Take an afternoon break. Call a friend, go to a movie, spend time in your garden. Come back for a new perspective.
* Do something different. If you have always turned to books for answers try posting on our free online discussion forum, The Village Gathering. If you always post, consider a book. If you always talk to the same people look for new sources of information.
* If you're still stuck, or worse yet paralyzed, consider professional coaching with Penny. Openings almost always available within 48 hours. 651.775.8302 or email.
What Can Coaching Do For Me?
Get Immediate Professional Advice
Coaching with Penny provides tremendous help to couples or individuals who are dealing with trauma or crisis in their marriage. In the coaching relationship Penny and her clients create a dynamic where exploring the changes that need to be made begins the process of change. With an understanding of what's in the way of a creating a joyous and fulfilling marriage we can design a strategy to set the wheels of change in motion.
From Someone Specializing in Infidelity and Recovery
Penny specializes in helping couples healing from infidelity or addictive behaviors in their marriage. Most clients come in some stage of that work. In the cases of infidelity until the affair is ended and an agreement to recommit to the marriage is reached, there is little if anything we can do to make the marriage healthier. The straying partner's attention and focus is consumed by the affair partner. The efforts of the betrayed spouse to fix the marriage are often viewed as annoyance in no way can they compete with the fantasy relationship of an affair.
Help Increase Your Understanding
With that in mind, much of the early focus and strategy will look at what the faithful partner can do to change the dynamics in the marriage, rock the affair boat, and other direct steps to end the affair. This is incredibly difficult and counter- intuitive work. Some very emotionally disciplined individuals can do it on their own, a few stumble into doing the right things accidentally - the rest simply stumble along either divorcing or never truly healing their marriage.
Making All the Difference
This is where the role of a professional coach can make all the difference in the world. Penny specializes in helping people every day whose spouses are having affairs. She understands the dynamics of affair relationships, because she's been there. Penny has a significant level of expertise in dealing with troubled marriages and is the pioneer of trained coaches who works with marriages in crisis. For more about Penny check out her bio. To see what others have said about working with Penny read some testimonials
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