You've seen the signs of infidelity. Your worst suspicions are confirmed. And you don't know what to do next. Your whole world feels as if it's collapsing around you. Few things are as chaotic and destructive as a partner's affair.   There is hope.   My ebook guides you, step by step, through the things you must do to address your partners affair.   Affairs happen in really good marriages as well as really bad ones. Understanding the addictive nature of romantic infatuation helps you see beyond the pain to the actions you must take.

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This book is written for you. It will help you understand what your spouse is experiencing. It will help you understand what you are experiencing. In this book I lead you by the hand and explain every step of the way.

 

 

Excerpts from Overcoming Infidelity 

Infidelity is the number one presenting cause of marital crises and cries for help (and an undisclosed cause in many more). If we can help any of the involved partners take steps to end an affair and guide the couple through recovery, we can decrease the divorce rate, preserve families, and prevent the tragic effects of divorce on the children of our planet.

 

Infidelity is an addiction. We find it difficult to keep this in mind when our society refers to affairs as love stories, and our culture glamorizes the betrayal of marriage vows. Nonetheless, infidelity is every bit as much an addiction as alcohol, drugs,or gambling. Recent research by Helen Fisher discusses the addictive nature of romantic love – the drive that keeps people caught in an affair even when they express a desire to end it. It is the samedrive that keeps people engaged and seemingly incapable of walking away from their marriages....

 

 

Strategies for overcoming infidelity are needed 

Most spouses, when faced with a partner's unfaithfulness, make mistakes. Big mistakes. Their reactions are normal and to be expected, but if they hope to save their marriages and keep their families together, other, more strategically sound, steps are needed.

 

Many marriages facing infidelity follow a slow slide to divorce, aided and abetted by actions based on instincts and emotions, which lead the betrayed partner down a path that feels right but, in reality, is destructive.

 

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Intervention Phase - counter-intuitive and crucial

 

When there is an affair the betrayed partner must intervene on two completely different fronts at the same time. The necessary Intervention Phase actions seem contradictory in nature unless one keeps in mind that the goal is to end the affair – not to make the straying mate's decision to have an affair peaceful and pleasant.

 

Seven things you must do in Intervention Phase .... order Overcoming Infidelity

 

Myths of Infidelity and Divorce - the script virtually all straying partners follow

Protection Phase - keeping your sanity in the face of chaos

I call it Protection Phase because it has multiple layers of protection all aimed at one thing,protecting the marriage and the people within it. Wedo that first by protecting the betrayed partner from the continued pain of dealing with the affair. At the same time, because saving the marriage is our goal, we also protect the straying partner from the inevitable backlash of anger and disrespect the betrayed spouse will show as the affair wears on. We might all agree that the wayward spouse is in an ethically compromised situation but, if we want to save the marriage as opposed to exacting vengeance, then we need to put aside our emotional reactions and keep the goal of saving the marriage at the forefront of our minds.

 

Protection Phase allows the betrayed spouse to recharge his orher personal batteries, to detach from the partner's affair, and to reengage in life. Protection Phase allows the betrayed spouse to find peace and calm in the midst of chaos and to reconnect with his o her inner strength. It allows healing to begin.

 

It is crucial to understand attachment and the role it plays it Protection Phase so that you can use it to your advantage.

 

More about attachment and contact in Protection Phase as well as how to tell when it's time ... order Overcoming Infidelity

 

 

 

 

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